“Don’t let your mind bully your body into believing it must carry the burden of its worries.”- Astrid Alauda

I know things are sucking for a lot of people lately. Stress is running rampant. Things are ugly and you feel beyond tired. I understand, and I really feel for you. So that’s why I’m giving you permission to take a break.

No, seriously. Just put everything down and walk a way for a bit. Take any kind of break you need; be it mental, emotional, social, or physical. Sadly, the cause of your stress isn’t going to magically go away. (I’m not that talented.) But, despite your fears it isn’t going to get worse either unless you ignore it for an extended period of time.

What are you waiting on? Oh, maybe you don’t know how to de-stress. I don’t know what exactly will work for you, but I’ll share some of my stress busters.

Music is probably my most used one. I’ll put on a specific playlist and sing till my throat hurts. I focus solely on the music and lyrics. Everything else slides away and I relax.

Watching a movie or reading a book is also a good way to relax. I do think that it should be something you haven’t seen or read before. Because, if you have the stress will creep back in during a boring part.

Sex is often another recommended way to deal with stress. Let’s face it sometimes that just isn’t feasible. I also don’t think it’s a good idea to find a fuck buddy when you are stressed. I mean come on, everyone knows that is for extreme cases of boredom or drunkenness*. But, hell if you have access, ya might as well take advantage of it.

Finally, my second best way to deal with stress is to meditate and go to your happy place. Everyone should have a happy place, and they should make it super fucking slamming.

Until next time, “Oh but it’s okay to breathe your worries away when everything and everyone tries to lead you astray. Hold your own, hold your ground, hold to light when you’re down and always believe that there’s a way back home.”**
autumn

*- Please note, Autumn does not condone casual sex in the cases of boredom or drunkenness. After all her father reads this blog.

**- The until next time is lyrics from Hold by Axium.

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“We seem to be going through a period of nostalgia, and everyone seems to think yesterday was better than today.  I don’t think it was, and I would advise you not to wait ten years before admitting today was great.  If you’re hung up on nostalgia, pretend today is yesterday and just go out and have one hell of a time.”- Art Buchwald

So stories are pouring in at Join the Impact, and once they have final counts and everything I will share with you the outcome. The cities that have posted their totals so far are impressive. Seattle alone had an estimation of between five and six thousand. I hope that people look at that to see how united we are over this topic.

Meanwhile, I started learning to play the guitar today and have a new found appreciation for even the crappy music. I mean really, I can’t even get the damned thing tuned properly so far. I’m heading off to try again. Wish me luck.

Until next time, see you thought I was kidding about the dying cat sounds coming from my house.
autumn

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“Music is the only thing in this world, with the exception of sneezing and looking at the sunset, that takes you to a place that’s above the mundane. Everything else is just bullshit.”- Stephan Jenkins

I don’t necessarily agree with Mr. Jenkins on that statement. There are several things that can elevate a person. Although, music is definitely on the top of the list for me. It is occasionally the only thing that works.

I haven’t been this excited about music in a while. There are tons of upcoming albums, that I can’t wait to hear. My first musical obsession, Third Eye Blind is releasing an EP next Tuesday and is following that up with a full length next year. AFI is currently in the studio recording and they hope to have that album out relatively soon. December is going to bring us new All-American Rejects and Fall out Boy.

Oh and next week, will rock my face off. Nickleback is releasing Dark Horse, Dido gives us safe trip home, and *Squee* David Cook releases his self-titled. If you go to David Cook’s website you can listen to it before it is released Tuesday. Like I have a million times, I’m just saying. There was also something about another David, having released something Tuesday, but I didn’t really pay attention. You’ll have to ask Ethan about that. I distinctly remember something about Idol loser…

Finally if you hear the sounds of cats dying painful deaths next week, don’t be alarmed. I’m just learning to play the guitar.

Until next time, yaaaay new music.
autumn

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“It is an undoubted truth, that the less one has to do, the less time one finds to do it in.”- Earl of Chesterfield

I really don’t have anything to talk about today. I know that is shocking, considering normally I can bullshit my way through at least a paragraph. But not tonight, I mean really I have nothing. I sat and started at the blank screen for at least an hour.

The truth is (Why do people say that? It leads one to believe everything else you spout is lies…) that I’ve had a migraine since the last post. I get them fairly frequently, so that’s not really a big shocker. But, by the time I could handle staring at the computer screen, Shameless came over. I spent some time with him, and then we went to meet Ethan. Considering I don’t see Ethan as much anymore and since he isn’t going to be in town but a day or two, I wasn’t going to blow him off to come up with a blog post.

So yup, this is what you get. Hey, at least I haven’t lost NaBloPoMo yet.

Until next time, that was a whole lot of nothing.
autumn

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“What this world needs is a new kind of army- an army of the kind.”- Cleveland Amory

Wow, just wow. The DF community, the Buzznet community, and only the Gods know who else have donated enough money to pay back those who bailed Mark and his co-worker out of jail. I am pretty sure, they said the amount was raised in less than 10 hours.

That is just fucking amazing to me. I am so proud of everyone who donated. His estimated amount doesn’t even include those who are mailing checks and money orders. That said, you can still donate to go toward future legal fees. But if that isn’t your cup of tea, why not consider donating to the Human Rights Campaign or The American Civil Liberties Union.

The election built my hope of this country. The aftermath of negativity and the passing of anti-gay propositions tore most of the hope down. But, witnessing this… I can’t even explain. This shows me that we can do what needs to be done. All we need is determination and compassion.

Until next time, I’m offering my hand to anyone who needs it.
autumn

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“There must be quite a few things that a hot bath won’t cure, but I don’t know many of them.”- Sylvia Plath, The Bell Jar

I took an “Autumn’s Day” today. I didn’t watch the news. I haven’t read my blogs. I didn’t reply to emails. I just didn’t… and because I didn’t, I did more today than in a long time.

I kept commitments, but didn’t stress over them. I spoke to the coffee guy with more words than yes, please, and thank you. I taught my class to Bella, and enjoyed her company. I followed that up with a visit to a nice little tex-mex restaurant that had good food, a margarita which was pretty much a tequila slushie, and fun conversation. I capped off the night with Shameless talking about relationships, prop 8, and David Cook.

Today reminded me how much I need stress free days, and conversation that exists outside of email and my own head. I need to get out more and be social. I need to balance myself more. So, I will.

Until next time, any one up for tequila slushies?
autumn

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